This article is a critique of sexual orientation identity conflict in the neo liberal order. It explored evidence of perverse homophobic attacks on the Lesbians ,Gays, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and Intersexed persons -LGBTQIs in the United States by non LGBTQIs and argues that the liberal order has been unable to sustainably resolve sexual orientation identity conflict. The data derive from extensive fieldwork in the United States, which at the same time helps to illuminate recent broader issues and on the ground evidence associated with sexual identity conflicts. This included direct personal interviews and virtual online surveys on adult males and females between the ages of 25 to 50 among the gay and non- gay communities in New York City, Florida and California. It involved LGBT based NGOs, LGBT movements and Community Based Organizations (CBOs), Christians and non- Christians .Majority of the participants (75%) were drawn from (CBOs) and 25% from LGBT based NGOs and movements. Participants were deployed between August 1999 and January 2000, supplementary interviews were conducted between September 2014 and December 2015. Relational content analysis (RCA) was deployed to review secondary data including a longitudinal internet report that covered a three decade period (1990-2015). Additional evidence in the literature on related scenarios on the conflict in most states were utilized. The study concludes that ?systemic sexual orientation identity conflict? has been endemic and had taken perverse and strategic turn at the post same sex marriage legalization. Based on our field experience, the article suggests the inevitability of novel policy response for resolution of the conflicts.